Anything can be shared in the right tone, the right moment and the right environment. You probably won’t be believed the first time you say this, but just keep saying it and believing it enough for both of you. Instead of giving her his complete attention he sighs is aggravation? Always on guard. Your approach while being on the receiving end of “We Need To Talk” is a great way of investing yourself (ready to accept whatever it is that’s about to be said). Describe the situation and how it impacted you. The workload is overflowing. “Can’t wait for our 15 mins”. Stella Chiu Don’t get side tracked. She decides to talk about it with him. – Shannon L. Alder. Don’t speak about this in front of other people. Worried that the answer to the tough stuff won’t be what we want to hear. I almost love all your posts . Firstly you have to look at the reasons why you feel you can’t. Words – so innocent and powerless as they are, as standing in a dictionary, how potent for good and evil they become in the hands of one who knows how to combine them. No disturbances. So true Stella, when one party has no interest in talking, it really is time to move on. Constantly feeling a sense of doom. Here are five strategies to use when transitioning important communication away from texting. This powerful time together can’t be under estimated. What do you want to get out of the conversation? You may be surprised to find that prolonged loneliness has profound physical implications. 15 minutes of open communication, each and every day. Is this person an interrupter? You can’t work on yourself if you’re not willing to confront the truths that are deep within you. I take my time to answer if there is a problem. Sometimes we tend to ignore the most important things. Start this conversation with the aim of finishing amicably. Maybe your partner works till 6pm and needs to come home and cook for the kids? It never crossed his mind to inform his partner how busy he is. We mentally go back in history when we have no idea what’s coming. Interview with Brent Jones from Brent Jones Online. Attempting to steer the conversation onto another subject. That experience helped you to where you are today. Explore each other, get to know one another a better. For further reading on confusion see ‘To Be Human Is To Feel Confused At times‘. You’re not sure what’s going on, although you’re no longer comfortable with it. Not sleeping well. I really appreciate this post and notice you have other posts on having difficult conversations that I will be reading. it could mean he has met someone else or needs time to him self just talk 2 him if he brakes up with u then dont worry if u truly do love him he will come bac. She decides to talk about it with him. The talks. We can’t expect others to know what we are thinking or feeling. There’s quite a large body of research that supports the importance of our inner dialogues. Questioned if he still loves her. 2. It should never be acceptable regardless of the excuse. In some circumstances we know what conversation will follow. Serious talks aren’t had because they’re enjoyed. Speak from your own perspective. Creating its own answers to the issue. Aware of the individual’s temperament. Problem arises when defensive altitude, anger, and misunderstanding present in either party. Ask yourself the following questions about the tone: These words don’t come from strangers. Question 1: That’s is really rude and there’s no need for that. The key to satisfaction, says Dr Love, is to find ways to connect without words: ‘Everyone needs to learn that before we can communicate by speaking, we need to connect … We Need Space. An explanation. When we hear “We need to talk” it should never make us defensive or place us on guard. It’s up to the individual how much they want to divulge. You’re emotionally attached to this person. He grabs hold of her, smiling broadly and explaining the growth in business. He immediately drops his brief case to the floor and goes to her side. Something that could mean the end of your relationship unless you take it REALLY seriously. You will address what has to be addressed. Do all discussions have to wait for this 15 minutes? ‘This isn’t an ending. “I did not like the way you spoke to_________. Other people are consciously cut from your life. The Compromise In a Relationship‘. Feeling sad. That can all be overcome by setting up times to discuss everything. Don’t jump into their drama. If they say it "needs to be in person" or they "need time to sit down and really talk about it," just tell them that you're not interested in playing games and if they felt the need to go out of their way to alert you that they needed to talk, they'd go ahead and say it, or forever hold their peace. In this period you express both trivial and important matters. Approachable most of the time, but in the flick of a moment you turn into action woman. They come from people we love. Face to face. Rather than be on the defence before the conversation has begun. NERVOUS KITTEN @thedigger0. She can’t seem to relax. By talking to and understanding each other, you’ll make the relationship last. In ten years-time your communication will still be as strong as it were when you first met. If you feel as though you can’t, there are trust issues. The Compromise In a Relationship, Coronavirus, Thanks for Reminding Me Why I Hate Teaching From Home, Why the Nicest People Are the Strongest Inside, To Make Friends, Set Your Standards Ridiculously Low, Practicing a Meditation Exercise for Self-Love, Make Friends With People Who Are Much Older Than You. it’s unacceptable! Start asking questions. Top 10 must visit National parks in India. All of a sudden our imagination activates to turbo. Body language and facial expressions are factors of communication, however the ‘we need to talk’ can cause an individual to immediately feel stress or angst. When that’s ignored, over ruled or taken for granted, there is nothing you can do. An individual who will do everything in their power to avoid taking responsibility for their own actions. A potentially explosive or upsetting matter should be managed delicately. Taking over and distressing us. So what happens when it does not? Scenario after scenario keeps popping into her mind. 280K likes. Someone you care deeply about has something on … The mind has a field day, tormenting us with many different possibilities. Just those four words. A person we respect is attempting to open up dialogue. Don’t do it angry. I think sometimes it is Okay to say nothing, but if it is a subject that keeps coming up and we don’t address, it just can keep growing. We shouldn’t feel vulnerable around true friends. It could mean only one thing… Understandably, you freak the hell out. People are not mind readers. Wanting to address an important issue. Thanks for your comments. We mentally go back in history when we have no idea what’s coming. Be patient. The better we get at expressing ourselves and our needs the better we are able to deliver the message. 1. Do all discussions have to wait for this 15 minutes? Prev Next Slideshow (You can use your keyboard arrow keys ) Follow @MemeGuy1. Eye contact is not as intense as face to face. Highlighting how valuable this time is. This time adds up over a year. More to the point she is going to corner him and confront him. When we hear “We need to talk” it should never make us defensive or place us on guard. eboogiiee liked this . A… Yourself and the other person. Procrastinator, How Many Times Are You Going to Put Things Off? When there are no matters to raise, dig a little deeper. It’s only when they start stepping on toes that we have to make adjustments. Some relationships end naturally. He grabs hold of her, smiling broadly and explaining the growth in business. From the receiving end of it, I’ve found it’s helpful to be ready to accept whatever it is that’s about to be said. Since writing this post, I have heard the ‘We need to talk’ so many times. Not all conversations will have the outcome you planned. What do you do then? It’s a daunting sentence yet it should make us curious. If you enjoyed this post, don’t forget to share it on your favorite social media site. You don’t want someone to feel ambushed, nor do you want to start with “we need to talk,” which is a surefire way to put a person on edge. I must tell “What a Fantastic Article On Communication”.Communication can build and ruin personal as well as professional relationships. youcantspellanumberwrong reblogged this from leftphalange. Don’t we love happy endings? In a hurry to locate the cause for such a statement. Our partners, friends or family members. Poor communication skills, lack of self awareness and blame have a way of really knocking relationships about. The mind will take over and come up with its own conclusions. It’s a daunting sentence yet it should make us curious. She goes looking for hints. No other adults adding their two bobs worth. Hints are not specifics. 10 years ago. Your right Yvonne these conversations should never be had when either person is fueled with rage. Originally published at www.digalittledeeper0.me on May 27, 2016. Describe the situation and how it impacted you. She’s worried. In amongst the conversation you say:-. This is good for the person who constantly butts in. We have busy lives, yet each morning or evening you can rely on this period of time. Making this time a priority. Other people are consciously cut from your life. It’s a big statement saying you’re important to me. The person I am talking to is not the enemy, I don’t want to win a conversation, I want myself and the other person to get something beneficial out of the time we spend together. You know when you’ve gotten to this stage you’re putting off the tough talk. Embracing difference and comfortable not having to agree. When hubby gets home he sees the destressed look written all over her face. Of course I was not a Christian back then and honestly, I was in a rage. But what if the husband walks in from work and the wife says, “We need to talk”. Start asking questions. Get into a daily habit of sharing what is going on in your mind. if you don’t mind let me eat quite and when you’re calm down,we can talk in a more respectful way,please. Words — so innocent and powerless as they are, as standing in a dictionary, how potent for good and evil they become in the hands of one who knows how to combine them. These words don’t come from strangers. However, having time to discuss will reduce some of the controversial issues. Then what? Here is how you take matters into your own hands. Our partners, friends or family members. “Your friend made a pass at me.” A mate has just proven they can’t be trusted. When the other person is talking, listen for a key word or phrase, and then use it as a springboard to dive into your next comment or question. Tact and diplomacy. If you decide to bring up the issue to someone with professional experience in handling it, one easy way to have an honest conversation about it and your concerns would be to bring it outside the office. The friendship may be on the line anyway. You’ve brought up a topic I think a good number of us can relate to. But on the other hand if it is a serious kind of energy…I do agree, but keep on reminding myself not to take in words emotionally. Then what? Most of the time these individuals try and throw some dirt your way. These words don’t come from strangers. The post shares many tips on how to prepare for important talks because as we are nothing more than human, things won’t always go as planned. Or another idea is. We’ve talked about a few things you can say, but the most essential ninja strategy is to listen. Men do not ramble on about random comments and generally don't appreciate it when women … Are they likely to become nasty or sarcastic? You are screwed. Working in the garden, driving in a car or going for a walk. We all want to lash out at times. answer #2. ellie. To me, timing is everything because if someone isn’t in a good place, it could ruin things right away. What is your motivation for a serious talk? She shares her thoughts and observations on the matter. Don’t be in a hurry to get it out of your system because you feel uncomfortable. In a hurry to locate the cause for such a statement. Not the nasty stuff. She could possibly be sensing there's something wrong with you and so wants to sit down and talk about it with you, in order to help you. Finger pointing will always put people on the defensive. A change. The alarm rings off when we hear ‘we need to talk’. “If employees ever want to talk to me about a sensitive topic they usually ask if we can grab coffee or schedule a meeting with me,” she adds. If you really need to get something off your chest right now, you can take a shortcut: an online peer support chat. She says, “We need to talk”. 1. Creating its own answers to the issue. If the person seems angry, I will delay the response. I agree the tone, the body language, the facial expression are all factors when we communicate. You know when you’ve gotten to this stage you’re putting off the tough talk. Sounds as though your aim is working towards being able to express yourself openly and honestly. Moving on is easier said than done. Are they likely to become nasty or sarcastic? Serious talks aren’t had because they’re enjoyed. My girlfriend just called me and said "we need to talk" and she's coming over after I get off work. First, you need to understand that when a guy says "we need to talk" that they truly have something to say. Then get back to your issue. 10 years ago. Interesting post . Jennifer Giacoppo recently posted…‘How to get more out of your day-Yes please!’. She has wondered if he is having an affair. However in reality that is not always the case. Have some idea how you will approach the subject. You feel there is a problem but you can’t explain it. Aware of the individual’s temperament. — Shannon L. Alder. It’s about fixing a problem. “We need to talk.” No context, no explanation. Then what? I guess for me ‘We need to talk’ depends on the tone someone is delivering at the time. Thank you for sharing your story. Start this conversation with the aim of finishing amicably. He even asks her to come into the office to help out. So stop trembling at the words “we need to talk,” and start communicating without fear. These words don’t come from strangers. It’s something I really struggle with but this has given me some tips and ideas to ponder. Lack of communication erodes friendships, families, partnerships. I’ve been realizing over the last several months that when I hear something like this, I immediately assume the worst. “We need to talk.”  We’re on guard as soon as we hear these words. Bracing ourselves. I won’t get sucked into drama or anger. Although I do encourage sharing as much as possible, honestly it’s freeing. So I agree we must give such conversations our full attention. Let me know if you would like to get into the nitty gritty of confrontation. When someone says to you "We need to talk" you get that nervous feeling. She enjoys assisting others develop personally. I tend to avoid confrontation at any cost which I am aware is not good. Even if the w… Facial expressions give us plenty of feedback. He immediately drops his brief case to the floor and goes to her side. You converse with the most important person in your life. It sounds as though this couple have more than one serious issue to address. Sometimes we just need to move on. But I guess it's because everytime I've had one of those "we need to talk" or "I need to talk to you" discussions it ended up badly for me. But over the years I’ve learned to take a deep breath and go face to face of what is to come. Hints are not specifics. Asks, “What now?” and says, “It seems like you have always got something urgent to talk about.”. MRW someone says We need to talk. Not all conversations will have the outcome you planned. You can send an email or write a letter. You can beat this.’The hopelessness of depression stands with its arms crossed, blocking the door to anything better. We can’t expect others to know what we are thinking or feeling. If you dropped everyone that annoyed you, there would be nobody around. Having your say is only one half of the conversation. You’re willing to place yourself on the line. You can send an email or write a letter. Then what? I worry, sometimes for days, that either a) I’m in trouble or b) someone close to me is in trouble. The success of communication from “we need to talk” depends heavily on the altitude of person on each side – respect, cool, eager to see the issue and find the solution for it. That is my knee jerk reaction. When there are no matters to raise, dig a little deeper. You do sound like a woman on a mission in your story. Bracing ourselves. Hear the person’s tone. In my post Superhero Strengths to the Emotional Rescue, I touch on this area further. Someone you care deeply about has something on their mind and you’re involved. It should never be acceptable regardless of the excuse. Noticing the tenor of the conversation can help you figure out if the person isn’t engaged and cue you to exit elegantly. She can’t seem to relax. Communication can be difficult to handle in some situations. What a great topic!! The workload is overflowing. Remaining open and approachable. Chatting side by side. Another compelling and insightful post. The mind takes over. We have busy lives, yet each morning or evening you can rely on this period of time. If you put for “we need to talk” to the opposite party, but don’t want too. She could talk about issues she's having in her own life or in the relationship. Prev Next Report. Over a period of a month the wife recognises her husband is arriving home 3 to 5 hours later than normal. They dig up the past in attempt to get the upper hand. It’s about fixing a problem. Annoyance. He refuses to say anything unless it’s in person. You should be to consider my feelings. One person is not looking for a resolution but an end date. As you shared, couples should learn to share things together. I’m here when you’re ready. It offers relief and comfort. If one person is travelling put in an effort to do this over the phone. People feel cornered. You care about the other person enough to want to have this conversation. Friends smiling and yet there feels like a hidden agenda. Over a period of a month the wife recognises her husband is arriving home 3 to 5 hours later than normal. Having the uncomfortable discussions does not mean things will change. A habit of putting aside all of life’s demands. Its a great idea Dana – Giving a person a timeframe to come and have a chat. You converse with the most important person in your life. Talking over you. Encouraging others to go easy on themselves through a transition of change. Relationships Evolve When They Commit to Conscious Growth Generally going into survival mode. Highlighting how valuable this time is. She specializes in identifying repeated patterns in behavior that hinder growth. 8. Not meaning to, not consciously, but life gets busy. Troubled mind. Join Dr. Dar as she shares what happens to our minds when we hear these words. The most unbalanced person can receive a message without losing it, given the right time, place and tone of voice. When we hear “We need to talk” it should never make us defensive or place us on guard. The talk instantly evaporates all her worry and sadness. We both came to a stop when his car landed into a light pole. Thankfully his life was spared but I shared my testimony as a way of showing what our approach to others with just those few words can do in terms of escalating a situation to the point of destruction and God forbid, death. Then go in search of all the different strategies that you may be able to apply to your life. This is where it gets tricky. She goes looking for hints. “We need to talk.” What do you think of when you hear those words? This talk requires a distraction free environment. They are, perhaps, the most dreaded four words in the English language. That was ease tension. Do you need the person to agree, disagree or are you wanting to get an issue off your chest? Even uncomfortable conversations can be managed at the right time. It’s tougher maintaining a relationship that should have been over long ago. The talk instantly evaporates all her worry and sadness. When someone says he or she is thinking about suicide, or says things that sound as if the person is considering suicide, it can be very upsetting. I recall some years back calling my then husband on the telephone telling him he needed to get his….home because we need to talk. Think positively! I agree with you, the common reaction to the statement “we need to talk” is defensive and thinking of the worst may be coming. It’s only when they start stepping on toes that we have to make adjustments. Discuss what you would like to happen in the future. But allowing someone we respect to air their concerns and have us listening without being defensive will certainly help them off load. It’s tougher maintaining a relationship that should have been over long ago. You have to either accept it or move on. What happens when someone says We Need to Talk. You immediately call him, asking for some clarification. Respect. Don’t be in a hurry to get it out of your system because you feel uncomfortable. That’s how it feels. Preparing herself for the worst possible outcome. I haven't fucked up in a while but had one today I designed a 10 kva as 7200/12470Y-120/240 and it was supposed to have a 240/480 secondary. For more information on this topic see – ‘He Says Beer, She Says Shoes. WE NEED TO TALK. On top of that, when they do decide to talk to us, they do it very minimally and infrequently while employing deflective techniques such as saying one thing when they really mean something completely different. You have to either accept it or move on. When that’s ignored, over ruled or taken for granted, there is nothing you can do. Sometimes we take for granted, our close friends and family. Say it like it is. “You constantly do ____. Ahhh yes. Now if I’m the one who “needs to talk”, I’ll approach it and ask if there’s a good time (and I’ll offer a timeframe) – like anytime before _____. “We need to talk.” We’re on guard as soon as we hear these words. Information. A potentially explosive or upsetting matter should be managed delicately. You’re emotionally attached to this person. You just need to find the right things to talk about. Instead of giving her his complete attention he sighs is aggravation? The end of your relationship. Say for instance a husbands business has begun to expand. I have something to said to you , I would like to share my thoughts .There is something on my mind .Do you have a minute ? Once you’ve said “we need to talk” – in whatever words you use to say that – it’s not fair to make the other person wait for the news. Scenario after scenario keeps popping into her mind. When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. People are not mind readers. Until finally she cannot stand it anymore. In all the above instances try to remain calm. pink-kittayeee reblogged this from leftphalange. Not sleeping well. And…If I can’t I just tell the person. A person we respect is attempting to open up dialogue, 5 Easy Steps For Having A Hard Conversation, Putting off an important conversation? When he gets home he likes to relax, rather than go over the day’s events. I love the essence that this post conveys as it encourages us to be more open and realizing it’s okay to not feel okay about things. Nathaniel Hawthorne. Like you said they can keep growing if not addressed. Regardless, it does help to know that things can turn out in any way imaginable. Also its very difficult to handle some situations. In this period you express both trivial and important matters. If I do this, I’m not in a defensive state and I’ll listen. An apology. They are too worried about what might happen so they do nothing-which is worse! Ignoring his partners need to sit down and have a conversation. ‘How to get more out of your day-Yes please!’, You can Free from Asthma for Good almost Effortlessly. Feeling sad. It looked too flirtatious. Let them have their say. She shares her thoughts and observations on the matter. It’s not about winning. Appreciation. This is a great way to communicate. They dig up the past in attempt to get the upper hand. This time slot can be the thing that keeps the whole relationship together. That being said Dana, you have already done many hard yards, so being open and allowing another person to express themselves would be something you would encourage. Based on the wildly popular TED Talk with more than 10 million views. Instead of concern, the male feels inconvenienced. A guarantee. That’s a great way to look at it. This conversation would fall on deaf ears. I agree with everything you have said. This is good for the person who constantly butts in. No kids running around. Maybe they’re a friend. But what if the husband walks in from work and the wife says, “We need to talk”. How Do You Respond To - "We Need To Talk"? Top Photos. Generally after the ‘We need to talk’, conversation something has to follow. Moving on is easier said than done. Face to face. Without the “We need to talk” discussion, situations can blow way out of proportion. Even when you’re both disliking each other or angry – never skip over this period. Ignoring his partners need to sit down and have a conversation. Other conversations will end in stale mate. I love that you have posted this because it is the reason for many breakdowns. just-you-and-me-bbg reblogged this from leftphalange. Here are some places to start. When you’re lonely for a long time, the need to talk to someone eventually becomes pressing, even desperate – and for good reason. Don’t have a person building walls. What a fool”. Either I’ll have to accept responsibility for something, or I’ll point something out to the person who has a perspective different than my own. Accept everyone for who they are. No disturbances. I do. For more information on this topic see — ‘He Says Beer, She Says Shoes. It would be wonderful to say we communicate well all of the time. Generally after the ‘We need to talk’, conversation something has to follow. Writing is never too far from my thoughts. Glad you enjoyed it. Don’t we love happy endings? Here's what to do. Donna Merrill recently posted…3 Steps To Selecting A Blogging Niche. BB Code: Web/Blog: More Photos Tags: reaction, talk, animated, gif. There’s a vulnerability to the discussion at your end. I’ve always found this brave. A person we respect is attempting to open up dialogue, 5 Easy Steps For Having A Hard Conversation, He Says Beer, She Says Shoes. Don’t have a person building walls. For further reading on confusion see ‘To Be Human Is To Feel Confused At times‘. Doesn’t it feel good to accept yourself and others. Throwing information at another in the heat of the moment. If you enjoyed this post, don’t forget to share it on your favorite social media site. Her mantra is ‘reflect on your behaviour, develop strategies to improve, so you continually grow’. When someone tells me “We need to talk” I want to hide under my bed. It’s not about winning. i do not talk with the people i am not concern to. One would have to question, how a relationship can continue under these circumstances. Yet you’re not looking to skimp on conversation, you’re looking to fix a problem. Even when, “We Need To Talk” comes out pleasantly it has people walking on egg shells. Lack of the communication erodes friendships, families, partnerships. As he leaves each morning he kisses his wife on the cheek and reminds her he will be late. -Donna Eye contact is not as intense as face to face. You know before you begin how they may respond. we were doing all good with this girl, but out of nowhere she stop chatting with me, and i ask for advice to my closest friends, we all thought it was the normal stuff like she wants me to start the conversation, one day later after i sent her my message, she answered that i didn’t do anything wrong at all, that she is is trying to figure out some things and that she needs time. These talks only work if both parties have respect for one another. Friends smiling and yet there feels like a hidden agenda. Finger pointing will always put people on the defensive. You feel there is a problem but you can’t explain it. She’s worried. Let them have their say. What do you do then? 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